Meet Nanekia Ansari | The Parental Guidance Counselor (Mommy Coach)

We had the good fortune of connecting with Nanekia Ansari and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Nanekia, we’d love to hear more about how you thought about starting your own business?
Who needs a Mommy Coach? I think society has set us up to feel that if we as mother’s need assistance then we are not good mothers. Their is a guilt that is attached to seeking help in motherhood. I want to give moms permission to get the help and support they need guilt free. I use the examples, trial and error, from my own parenting journey to help mothers explore their own journeys. We do not leave the hospital with manuals for each child indicating how we should raise them and what happens in times of strife or joy. Experience is our teacher. If I can help even just one mom realize she is not alone and that there is help available and she doesn’t have to feel shame in reaching for it, I’ve done my part. Just One Hot Mom Coaching Services embraces moms at all walks of life and lets them know I’m a hot mom and so are you and we are doing this journey in all its glory and minimizing defeat by seeking the help/support needed to do so.

We work together to develop a parenting plan that will help each mom navigate motherhood. We examine their motherhood goals and how to best achieve them. I realized many moons ago that in order for moms to be their best they had to prioritize themselves in the family equation. I open the door for moms to take steps to do just that.

Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
I was given the opportunity to join a coaching program for executive leaders. The goal of this program was to become a coach so that you could help PhD students and other grad students determine their career paths and maneuver reaching their career goals. I believe moms are the CEOs of families, we are ultimately in charge. I went to the program directors and explained how I wanted to apply what we teach business leaders to motherhood. I began my breaking down household strategies, building the family as a team, professional development for family members, budget plans, goals and evaluations. Evaluations are important, they’re not really formal but I encourage open discussion and dialogue so that family members feel heard. Not only do they feel heard but they know mom is actively listening and considering what they are saying and vice versa. The program fit perfectly as it’s base is coaching with compassion. Compassion is something most mothers have a hard time receiving and sometimes giving. I love helping a mother realize parenthood can look like what she desires all by setting goals, making a plan to achieve those goals, and being open to her team’s (family) input along the way.

One of my greatest challenges is moms realizing it’s okay to seek help. It’s like the business owner who keeps spending despite being in deficit because their next big plan will take off. They do this until they run the business into the ground. Moms will have the thought that because they are moms they should be excellent at motherhood, no one should have to guide them with what to do with their families. Just like that business owner you have to know when to step back and say what I am doing is not working. I’m frustrated, we are living in misery, I need help. The admittance of needing help is the challenge. Once I can assure moms they will not be judged and we are going to obtain resolve they are open to coaching.

I’m honest with my clients. I do not have motherhood completely figured out. I do however have resources and knowledge I am willing to use and share. Open honest communication goes a long way and people appreciate your authenticity.

If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
In my city University Circle is a melting pot. Artistic and creative is the vibe here along with all the smarty pants students at the university. We would definitely spend time exploring the Botanical Gardens and art museum. The art museum host an event which allows working professionals to vibe and enjoy each others company so we’d go to MIX. There are so many place to eat here. As a mom I need a luxurious experience while I am away from the kids. One of my favorite spots is Hyde Park, amazing food but even better is the bartender, let’s call him Mr. D. Mr. D. has a way of knowing how to mix the perfect cocktail for moms. I don’t know how he does it, but he never fails. We’d leave there and find a place to dance or karaoke. During her visit we’d go downtown to East 4th to Goma for sushi, exploring all the East 4 has to offer before we head over to Society, a quaint speakeasy I found on one of my adventures.

The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
My children are my greatest lesson. Symone (25), Jamiel (18), and Anissa (9), do life with me. They get to see me at my best and at my worst. I am fortunate to have them be open to me figuring out how to mother each of them as individuals and then us collectively as a family. They are the reason I am confident in the mom I am today. I dedicate this moment to them, the people they are right now and to the elevated version of themselves, infinity and beyond.

Website: https://nanekia.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justonehotmom/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nanekia-ansari-817831116/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/just1hotmom

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/justonehotmom/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQpR3DKExE9Sifs5qaptsQw

Other: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-one-hot-mom/id1287126841

Image Credits
Marcia Craggett Natasha Herbert