We had the good fortune of connecting with Dr. Stacy Friedman and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Dr. Stacy, what do you think makes you most happy? Why?
It’s the small stuff. To answer your question about what makes me happy? It’s the orchids blooming in my yard, it’s the “good morning beautiful”, that I get from my fiancé in the morning. It’s my dog Koko, who rolls over as I walk over to pet her belly as her tail starts to wag. It’s being able to open my eyes and knowing I have my health when so many are suffering, when my kids come home and smile, laugh or just give me hugs and tell me they love me. I know it sounds like I am talking bull and people may be saying come on be serious but honestly, I just lost my mom 3 months ago way too young and she was my best friend. What made us happy, what made her happy was a day without pain (which was rarely had), a hug from a loved one, a conversation with someone you care about that allows you to get to know them better, taking a walk feeling the breeze in your hair. The last few months it has really been about the small stuff. Especially now with everyone being quarantined during this virus pandemic and realizing what is taken for granted such as getting together with family, going on a date with your partner, celebrating a birthday or even being physically there for family or friends when a loved one passes…these are things taken for granted, these are things I need to be happy. Yes, everyone needs money to survive and especially having good health but if you can look around you and take one day at a time, appreciate the little things, your life will richen which in turn will hopefully provide you with avenues and gifts that you may need in your future. Have patience, love and work hard for what you believe in and life will take you where you are meant to go. I truly believe in being true to yourself and loving yourself and others and you will feel a happiness and a sense of peace that will keep you smiling. -Dr. Stacy xo
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
Being a Clinical Sexologist and a Sex and Intimacy Coach has been an incredible part of my life and my journey. It was not an easy ride as I was doing ultrasound prior for about 26 years and when I decided to go into the field of sexuality, it wasn’t as well received as I had hoped so I had to put it on the back burner. I had gone through a divorce, had money struggles while helping my kids through it all as a single mom. I finally had the courage to do it, to follow my passion of helping others and go for my degree with the help and support of my family. I have 26 years in the medical field which helps me understand so much more than just the sexual aspect of a person or a relationship. I can understand so much of how medically, people can be supported at the same time. I have learned that being open and honest with who you are can give you the happiness you can feel as you reach your goals. I also struggled a lot after childbirth medically and sexually which damaged my marriage but it taught me so much and showed the importance of communication, never giving up when things are hard and to trust in yourself and your body to know what is best for it. I offer a lot of support and guidance, especially to women and couples who deal with painful sex as I have been there and I use so much of my education as well as my personal journeys through my sexual experiences to help everyone with theirs.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
I love the beach, dining and also appreciate diversity so if there were friends visiting I would start by taking them during the day to the south florida beaches, enjoying the sand and water as well as trying out some of the great restaurants on the beach. It feels like vacation when you can just chill, have a drink or a cold iced tea in the warm sun while being with friends. I love the sex museums in Miami, going to LIPS to have a drag queen dinner show and being able to just laugh and let loose! Downtown Delray off of Atlantic or South Beach are great places to share in the night life, checking out the bars, music and great dining
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
When I was getting my Doctorate in Human Sexuality, I was in the middle of a divorce, money was tight, kids were young and I was having a lot of health issues which kept me struggling in all of those avenues. Then to try and go through a doctorate program, which for me was about 20 years after finishing college, trying to get back into the school mentality was a huge struggle. The late Dr. Robert Dunlap, also a Clinical Sexologist who unfortunately passed away 3 years ago, was my mentor, my rock and support as he helped and guided me through my program, had patience and understanding of all I was going through. Without him, I may not have finished my program and made it to where I am today and I am grateful.
Other: For women 18+ only! LGBT included. My facebook group is facebook.com/groups/intimacysexandempowerment