Meet Natalia Hernandez | Certified Enneagram & Relationship Coach

We had the good fortune of connecting with Natalia Hernandez and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Natalia, what matters most to you?
Personal Responsibility. I’m a Relationship Coach and the majority of the time I see people wishing the other person in their life would change. They think the relationship would be better if the other person acted/said/did things differently. People also spend a lot of time thinking their partner should know what they want/need and this would eliminate difficult conversations or arguments. In reality, it’s the way we feel that we want changed. We don’t want to feel frustrated, annoyed, sad, when our expectations aren’t met. Meaning, the way we think they should have acted based on a ton of different reasons. The moment we expect someone to behave differently than the way they are, we fight against reality, we argue with who they are as a person. We forget we loved them for exactly who they were in the very beginning and as time passed, we decided we needed them to be different. Being able to see where we might be wrong, where we’re not owning up to our own negative patterns/behavior, to see how we’re listening to reply instead of respond – is the greatest part of taking personal responsibility in our relationships. Understanding and knowing how you personally react and show up in your relationship will lessen the negative impact of disagreements and arguments. You’ll have better control of what you want to say so it comes out rationally and clear, as opposed to highly emotionally charged and unclear.

What should our readers know about your business?
I’m a Certified Enneagram & Relationship Coach. I help people heal, mend, or end their relationships. I was always in great relationships but couldn’t ever make them last. I knew I was running or hiding or people-pleasing, but couldn’t step out of that into the kind of love I wanted to really experience. I thought it was reserved for certain people and I had to settle or be thankful for what I did have. When I learned the Enneagram, I understood immediately all of the decisions and choices I had made in my life and knew why I was in the situation I was in with my relationships. I learned how to trust myself, stop people-pleasing, and take ownership of the kind of relationship I wanted to be in, without self-sacrifice.

Through my own journey and helping clients, I created The Relationship Trifecta, a concept with 3 key elements that make a relationship not only great, but THRIVE. What makes my coaching unique is that I incorporate your enneagram personality, your patterns/behaviors and create a highly specific, tailor-made coaching container. You not only understand where your relationship is right now, but you’re able to change it around being fully aware of your own needs/wants/fears, taking personal responsibility for what you bring to the table, and being able to make daily intentional decisions that makes your bond stronger than ever before. It’s a future-focused approach to the kind of love you want and not simply what you have.

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I’d take her to Wynwood to see all of the street art, art galleries, food trucks, and craft breweries. There’s also plenty of small shops/boutiques and cafes to check out.

For a fun night out, to see all the beauty Miami has to offer, I’d take her to Area 31 at the Epic Hotel in downtown Miami – and make sure we have an outdoor table reservation. The views are phenomenal and the dishes are fantastic.

I’d also rent a boat tour or go kayaking by Biscayne Bay. There’s so many beautiful hidden places and homes that you can only see by boat.

Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
There are so many individuals that have inspired me and motivated me to change my life, and especially my relationship with love and my own marriage. Thanks to their their wisdom and mindset, I have the honor to help my own clients create stronger, more meaningful, more fun relationships.

I’d like to dedicate my shoutout to two coaches.

Kristi Rowles from the Enneagram University @enneagramuniversity where I became a certified enneagram coach. Kristi showed me how to use the enneagram not only to coach clients, but to apply the wisdom to my own life. I now understand myself on a level I didn’t think was possible – and I share these insights with everyone I meet.

My personal mentor/coach, Tsipa Swan @tsipaswan who has opened my mind and eyes for what’s possible in my ability to help people and couples in their relationships. She’s shown me what’s available if we focus on what we want and where we’re going instead of where we currently are. She’s brilliant.

Instagram: @nofrillscoach

Linkedin: Natalia Hernandez, Certified Coach

Other: I have a weekly podcast available on all listening platforms – No Frills Coaching Podcast

Image Credits
Helena Carmouze, Provoke Photography