We had the good fortune of connecting with Jessica Jefferson and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Jessica, what’s one piece of conventional advice that you disagree with?
Don’t go to bed angry. It is a common statement that many people share with couples, but I don’t agree. You shouldn’t apply this to your individual problems either. When we try to avoid going to bed angry, we end up beating a dead horse, which doesn’t fix the problem. Often times it makes it so much worse because we get so heated that we lose the ability to process information accurately. The problem becomes from an emotional space but ends up triggering physical reactions within our body that we don’t know is happening. This causes us to say or do things we don’t mean. Which makes the problem bigger and often brings out other problems. We also become part of the problem. No matter the case, it is important to allow yourself time to decompress and the ability to really process what is happening for you physically, emotionally and mentally. The only way to do that is to sometimes remove yourself from that situation, which means going to bed. Going to bed allows you to shut down the problem for a slight minute so that we can give ourselves time to think more about how to approach it in a better light. The IMPORTANT part in all of this is to ensure that you go back to trying to resolve the issue once you are in a better physical, emotional and mental position. We don’t want to ignore the problem or avoid it, we just want to be in a better position to handle it. That way we are doing the best that we can for ourselves and learning more about how to prioritize our essential needs first to find better resolutions for our life.
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
I own Cloud Nine Therapeutic Services that helps individuals and couples through heartbreak, because you shouldn’t have to go through it alone. Whether that is heartbreak over the loss of a loved one, feeling lost with yourself, or maybe the loss of connection with your partner, these are experiences that can be helped with a licensed professional. Together we can talk about what is getting in the way of what you want out of life.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I have to give a shout-out to my husband. He has been extremely supportive in my journey to become a mental health professional in order to help others!
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I have to give a shout-out to my husband. He has been extremely supportive in my journal to become a mental health professional in order to help others!