We asked folks we admire to share one piece of conventional advice that they disagree with.

Chastity Pascoe | Artist & Writer

A piece of conventional advice that I disagree with is don’t make decisions when you are angry. As I work to get better at acknowledging, accepting, and affirming my emotions I am trying to make sure that I don’t leave any of them behind, even those that may be deemed as negative. As a black woman especially, my experience and expression of anger is loaded. It is often put on me when it doesn’t exist and removed as an option when I need it most. As I work to express my emotions in my personal, professional, and creative life I am intentional that I do not leave my anger behind. I make decisions and create out of anger just as frequently as any other emotion and, often times, more so. It is an emotion that I struggle to understand so I want to work with and through it as much as possible. Read more>>

Michelle Y. Talbert | Relationship Marketing Strategist & Founder, Her Power Movement

The old adage is: “People buy from people who they know, like & trust.” I disagree. I think it’s fair to say we’ve all purchased from people we didn’t know. I didn’t know Ray Kroc and I certainly don’t personally know Taraji P. Henson or Rihanna, but I love their products. Well, not the McDonald’s. But I’ve definitely purchased from them. Happily. And, to take it even further, in some cases we buy from people we actually DISlike. People DESPISE Jeff Bezos, yet you’d be hard-pressed to find someone who has never ordered from Amazon or consumed an Amazon product. What we require is Trust. That’s what our customers expect. They need to trust that we will deliver the service or product that we’ve promised them and they will get their intended outcome. While it’s great to be liked. I’ve heard that only about 32% of the people we meet actually like us! Whew, I don’t know about you, but that statistic is oddly freeing. Are we really here to be liked or are we here to make an impact? I don’t know about you, but I’m here to, “Put a dent in the Universe.” Read more>>

Ingrid Schindall | Director

“Keep an eye on your competitors and find ways to beat them out.” While I agree that you should keep an eye on what your competitors are up to, I think any time spent plotting against a rival is time that should have been spent making your own business or practice better. I also believe strongly that the rising tide lifts all boats and often in the creative world, the offerings that your competitors have will be different from your own in distinct and important ways. This means the client’s decision of who to work with will be largely dependent on the quality of your portfolio and their aesthetic preferences. Instead of rivals, I think of the other print shops in South Florida as potential collaborators and have done my best to become friendly with them. Instead of thinking of ways to steal business or take over a particular corner of the market by force, I spend my time focused on making sure we’re taking good care of our customers, improving our portfolio, and sending out the right message about our brand. There are only so many hours in the days so I try to spend them building community and sharing our value and not waste time plotting and scheming against folks. Read more>>

Chinya Bully | Vegan Chef & Agriculturist

“What’s meant for you will come to you”. Read more>>

Denzel Parris | Designer & CEO of Denzel Parris International

That’s a good question, the thing that jumps out at me is the idea that “You need money to start.“ When I started I was a broke college student living in Miami. I didn’t have any money, I’m not saying that you don’t need money to create a line, but in order to start you have to do just that and start. To borrow a phrase “Just Do It !”. Read more>>

Chloe Kono | Creative Metalsmith & Jewelry Designer

The one piece of conventional advice that I disagree with is that we always have to plan and stick with the plan. I believe that creative minds share a common trait- we are extremely idealistic and often incredibly harsh on ourselves. We think a bit too much, plan a bit too much, and tend to worry about a million ways of how things won’t work out. That overthinking habit becomes unnecessary road blocks that we place onto the path of our already challenging unconventional lifestyle. 2020 was a year that taught me to work against that particular mindset. I am not saying that we should not have a plan, but the plan should be a guideline instead of a rulebook. And what we should really stick to isn’t the plan but the goal. A plan should merely be a tool to get us to what we want to achieve. If a tool doesn’t work right, switch to a better one. Sticking to it only leads to frustration and frustration sometimes leads to a sense of false failure which is dangerously destructive. Read more>>

Jessica Jefferson | Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Perinatal Mental Health Certified

Don’t go to bed angry. It is a common statement that many people share with couples, but I don’t agree. You shouldn’t apply this to your individual problems either. When we try to avoid going to bed angry, we end up beating a dead horse, which doesn’t fix the problem. Often times it makes it so much worse because we get so heated that we lose the ability to process information accurately. The problem becomes from an emotional space but ends up triggering physical reactions within our body that we don’t know is happening. This causes us to say or do things we don’t mean. Which makes the problem bigger and often brings out other problems. We also become part of the problem. No matter the case, it is important to allow yourself time to decompress and the ability to really process what is happening for you physically, emotionally and mentally. The only way to do that is to sometimes remove yourself from that situation, which means going to bed. Read more>>

Mira Mikati | Designer & Doodler

“Hard work is the key to success.” – Is it? So, if you’re doing well putting in 40 hours a week, will doubling that make you more successful? Of course not. We’re constantly conditioned to believe that putting your head down, “hustling” and “grinding it out” is the way to success. While this may work for some (and suddenly they are an aspiration), and despite it draining your soul and causing you to miss out on family, friends and overall life, there are many keys to success. One of them that no one talks about is good ol’ Lady Luck. Another is knowing where you’re headed, and having a realistic plan of getting there. Another is general timing of the universe, the people around you, where you are located etc…many things beyond your control. There is one thing you can control though. And that’s working smart. Working smart and not hard. They are not the same thing. What does that mean? Learning how to delegate tasks if possible. Having tools and systems to keep you organized. Outsourcing menial parts of your work. Read more>>

GiGi Diaz | Mindset Coach for Women Entrepreneurs & Founder of Seizing Happy

That the success of your business comes from business plans, marketing strategy or even social media growth. Sure, those things are important, but the one tool that can make or break your business – and it’s often the one most entrepreneurs overlook – is your mindset. Your thoughts create emotions. Your emotions dictate actions. Your actions create your reality. So essentially, success starts and scales depending on your thoughts, on your mindset. This is the main focus of coaching in my Seizing Happy programs. We help womenpreneurs get unstuck, break patterns that no longer serve them, release limiting beliefs, break money blocks, and shift their mindset so they can create the quickest path to success with less stress. Read more>>